I meditate on a new word every week –choosing a word for an entire year was such a frustration for me. From one week to the next I could not remember the word! How could I learn anything from that? Now I choose a word every week – this week’s word is FORGIVE. I go live on Facebook to share what I have discovered about the word every Wednesday: Check out the Live FORGIVE episode here.
Webster’S DEFINITION says to FORGIVE is:
- to grant pardon for or remission of (an offense, debt, etc.);
- to forgive one’s enemies.
- to cease to feel resentment against, absolve
- or to give up all claim or cancel on a debt or obligation.
What Webster is saying is that to forgive is an active process.
The Active Process of Forgiveness
When you first decide to forgive it’s like peeling an onion. You forgive initially and the first layer comes off really easy.
Then something triggers your memory, a smell, a sound, or.a similar experience. And all you can think of is:
”That carb-sucking pig! How could she have done that to me!”
And that’s the next layer. It’s where you forgive again and again, every time your memory brings it up. And the onion layers are more difficult to peel off.
Sometimes you have to peel off a layer every hour!
And finally, you forgive completely. You stop peeling the layers off the onion, when you forgive enough to move on.
Forgiveness is a decision.
My friend Kendra Burrows has created an amazing tool called a Decision Journal. Kendra is a funny lady. The best actress to portray her on the screen would be Diane Keaton. She is crazy smart, and equally crazy funny. She provides this Decision Journal FREE on her website! Get it now, before she figures out she should be charging for it!
If you use her Decision Journal to DECIDE to FORGIVE initially, it will keep you on target till you get through the continual forgiveness to the complete forgiveness stage. Go get Kendra’s Decision Journal. Stay on target with your forgiveness process!
Scriptures For FORGIVE
if my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and I will forgive their sin and will heal their land.
2 Chronicles 7:14 –
Our land has never needed so much healing, so if the forgiveness starts with me, count me in! How about you?
And I loved this one too:
Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. Colossians 3:13
To forgive is an active life style. It’s not passive. It demands that we continue to forgive an offense till we no longer think of it.
To FORGIVE is not:
- a restored relationship, the debt is just cancelled.
- A reason to gather with offenders. No Kumbaya required here!
Just forgive them and let them off the hook. We don’t forgive others because it’s good for them, although it is. We do it because it is good for us. It relieves us from carrying the debt someone owes us.
We forgive because:
When we actively forgive: initially, continually and completely, we set an example for others who are carrying unforgiveness.
We honor God, the one who forgave us.
The locus of our faith is in the resurrected Christ, but the evidence of our faith is found, quite often, in how we interact with one another. Dr. Matt Towels, Liberty University, at Gracious Forbearance
This Easter, and every day, forgive. Walk in the freedom God has in store for you!
Remember, … Whether you know it or not, we are all mentoring. We are all being mentored by someone. Use this word FORGIVE to be the best, most intentional mentor you can be!
For those of you who are hosting multiple generations at your home, or who are attending a multi-generational Easter celebration: Check out my little e-book A Love for All Ages. It’s a little 22-page printable available on my website for $3.99. It gives you all kind of tips for communicating with other generations with love and impact. www.chrismoss-author.com. It’s a great conversation starter!