We people watch.
It’s a hobby, an art form, a science, even.
And guess what? People are watching you back!
If we people watch in the same place repeatedly, we start to notice things about the individuals we see routinely.
So the real question is not ‘who is watching your every move?’
The real question is: What are they seeing?
People who watch us might ask these questions:
- How do they carry themselves?
- How do they laugh?
- Are they pensive and thoughtful?
- Are they loud and expressive?
- Do they have a special perspective, achievement, or manner that I would like to emulate?
In this people watching world, we are all secret mentors, whether or not we realize it.What do we do?
If you are a Baby Boomer…
As Boomers, the culture we created is known for being a little self-centered. Perhaps even a lot self-centered. Boomers are known for:
- sex, drugs and rock n roll
- being Yuppies, the 50 hour work week
- having dual income families and creating new ways to make money
- Boomers leave in their wake a legacy of wealth, indulgence, divorce and single parenting
If you are a GenXer…
this is the culture you bring to the mentoring table:
- they are the latchkey kids of the dual income families and divorced boomers
- they became a pack with their peers and raised each other
- parents were often secondary just because they did not take time away from work to parent for long periods of time
- they work to achieve a work life balance
- their divorce rate is still high
- their parenting style has, by necessity, become more protective (think Columbine)
This is what we do:
If you are a follower of Jesus, He teaches us to be selfless, not self centered. The fact that you are here in a mentoring discussion means that you are focused more on others than yourself. Which makes YOU:
Give yourself a self-high-five!
That brings us together today as counter cultural, secret mentors, as Baby Boomers and empty-nesters, GenXers who are soon to be empty-nesters, or Millennials with helpful souls.
Our common thread: We realize we have a lot of love still left to give…but our kids just don’t need as much of it as they used to. Where do we put it?
Accept Your Position as a Mentor!
God has created us all to people watch. He created us all to be watched. But counter cultural you?
“…Continue to work out your salvation with fear and trembling, for it is God who works in you to will and to act according to his good purpose. Do everything without complaining or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, children of God without fault in a crooked and depraved generation, in which you shine like stars in the universe as you hold out the word of life—” Philippians 2:12b-16a
God wants YOU to shine like a star in the universe as you hold out the word of life for the next generation of people watchers!
Mentoring is more like asking God for the privilege to shine for moms and families who might be in darkness. It is asking for the opportunity to love someone who might not have family close by to love them often enough. And sometimes, when a family is in a struggle, we are the only ones who can fight on behalf of that mom, that family. Sometimes, we are the only ones who set a godly example for the next generation.
When mentors shine with the truth of Jesus, we change the world. We change the trajectory of families.
Prepare yourself now to move from secret mentor to a self-proclaimed Mentor. Ask yourself these four questions:
- What do YOU have to give? Find your area of giftedness: https://spiritualgiftstest.com/
- What have you struggled with personally?
- What have you achieved? When you have successes, others naturally want to learn how to do what you have done. Learn to help them!
- How have you successfully helped others before?
Answers to these questions give you a good idea of what you have to offer as a mentor. Leave a one (or all!) of your answers in the comments below, or hop over to join the discussion at my Facebook Group.
Next Monday on Post Partum Depression on Mentor Moment Monday: